Working Parents & Sick Kids

I am not a stay at home mom.  I work full time and my husband works two full time jobs, just to get us through the holiday season.  We live 300 miles away from most of our family.  So what do working parents do when their children get sick, daycare is not an option when kids are sick, and there is no family close by to help?

My five year old is sick.  We are hoping it is just a cold and not that enterovirus that is going around.  School rules are that you have to be fever free for 24 hours to return to school.  My poor, sweet girl has had a fever for four days now.  She has been out of school for three days, and will probably not be able to return until next Monday.

I work in healthcare, and trying to get a day off on such short notice without calling off and getting in trouble is slim to no chance.  Healthcare workers are not allowed to be sick.  We get written up and in some cases terminated for being sick.

My husband works for a hotel chain.  They are also not allowed to be sick or  have sick kids.  Hotel workers also get written up or terminated for calling off sick or to take care of sick kids.  Needless to say, his boss was mad at him on Monday because he called off to take care of our daughter.

I was scheduled to be off on Tuesday and was going to have my oldest daughter care for her on Wednesday (today) but my little one started having more trouble breathing, and her fever was 103 all day.  I called off today.  I will probably get written up for it when I return to work on Friday.  I found someone to work for me on Thursday and asked if I can leave three hours early on Friday so my husband can go to his second job, he’s off from his first job.

Hopefully I will still have my job when I return to work.  If not, at least I will know that my daughter was well taken care of while she is sick.  Hopefully her fever will go down soon, and this won’t go into next week.

“I’m Sorry” Only Goes so Far

I wake up at 5:30 am during the week when I have to work.  I also wake up my kindergartner at that time so she can eat breakfast, get ready for school and so I can drop her off at a friends house who then gets her on the school bus, with their son who is the same age,for me.

Today, the kindergarten class when to a pumpkin patch for a class trip.  Parents were told to send a bagged lunch for the kids, as they would be having lunch at the pumpkin patch.  I prepared my daughters bagged lunch, and told her where she could find her lunch today (instead of being in her lunch box).   I proceeded with our normal routine and dropped her off at our friends house.

My friend was chaperoning my daughter and her son today for the trip.  When I got home from work, she had called me.  She said that the pumpkin patch was great and that the kids a good time.  There was only one problem.   My friend went up to my daughter’s teacher to ask for her lunch at lunch time and was told that my daughter’s teacher neglected to bring the kids lunches and did not allow the kids to bring their backpacks.  All her teacher said was I’m sorry.  No let me buy them all lunch at the snack bar or they can have some of my lunch.  Just “I’m sorry”.

My friend offered my daughter some of her sons food which was very nice of them.  My daughter, however, is the ultimate picky eater and only took a couple of bites.  We have great friends.

I am very mad at my daughter’s teacher.  Not only had my daughter have no lunch and didn’t eat since 5:30 am, but when they returned to the school, her teacher would not let them eat their lunches or have their snacks.  They arrived back to the school two hours before school let out for the day.  That was plenty of time for them to have their snacks or lunches.  Nope, my daughter had to wait from 5:30 am til 4:00 pm to have her lunch!

I called the superintendent’s office after I had gotten off the phone with my friend, at 3:15 and was informed that everyone had left for the long weekend.  I am expecting a call back from the superintendent on Tuesday afternoon.

I will not be letting this teacher get away with not allowing these kids to eat today.  It is not acceptable.  No child should have to go hungry in school, especially when the parents send in their kids lunch with them every day.  In this instance, “I’m Sorry” goes no where with me.

Dress Shopping

I never thought I would be at this point with my daughter this soon.  I thought I would not be at this point until she was about to go to her junior prom, not her freshman homecoming dance.

She told me this week that she wants to go dress shopping with her friends, not me this time.  I was a little taken back by that.  Okay a lot taken back.  They have no school this Friday, and her friends mother is going to be taking them.  I can’t go because I have to work that day.  To be honest, I’m a little hurt by this.  She’s not to girly and is always doing “guy” things with my husband (working on the car, riding mountain bikes).  The only thing I feel I get with her is dress shopping for dances.

I know i have two more girls that are following her.  I guess dress shopping for me will have to wait.