Teenage Driver # 1

Every teenager dreams of the day they get their drivers license.  They go into it with the normal teenage mind set of” I know how to do this,” “This is easy, I’ve got this.”  And every parent has the same fears of a hurt kid and smashed up car.  It’s not as quick and easy to get a license like it was 17 years ago.

Every state has its own laws about teenage driving.  For instance a teenager can obtained their learns permit in FL at the age of 15, and in CT & PA at age 16.  In FL you can have anyone in the backseat and someone who has had a valid license for 4 years or more.  In CT the only other person that can be in the car while your teen has a permit and for the first 6 months after they get the license is someone who has held a drivers license for 4 years or more.  And for the next 6 months they can only have their siblings in the care, no friends.

Sara obtained her FL learners permit in July 2016.  My husband started teaching her the basics of driving, and as time progressed was unable to take her out anymore.  I started taking her on the road more in March 2017.

We started in the neighborhood and worked our way up to driving on the multilane roads  I would have her drive to wherever we needed to go.  Once school let out for the summer we practiced parking in the middle school parking lot.

She felt she was ready and scheduled her test for mid July.  We took the day off from work to take her.  She was excited and nervous and so were we.

The instructor had an attitude problem from the start.  Sara remained calm and polite.  She did everything the instructor asked her to do.  When the instructor had her pull into a parking space and pull out again, Sara was half way out.  The instructor told her to stop and back up straight.  This put Sara in the other lane and she failed the test.

There is a driving school in our area that also administers the test.  We were able to schedule a test with them 2 days later.  They were very pleasant and made her feel less nervous.   She passed and got her license.  Thank you so much A Treasure Coast Driving School Inc. (on twitter @ACTDSI .   We have 3 more girls to follow.

SURPRISE!!!

You know that moment when you think that you are done having kids.  You say no more, we are all done.  And then one day you wake up and SURPRISE! there is another baby on the way.  Yeah, that was my husband and me last August.

We kept our little surprise quiet for quite some time, due to m history of complicated pregnancies.  I was considered high risk right away, and had to be followed by a team of doctors.  We waited to tell our families until just before Christmas, when I was cleared by the specialists that everything with this pregnancy was good.

I continued to wok until I was five months pregnant.  Not long after I put in for my early maternity leave at work, my husband received a transfer letter from his job.  We had two weeks to pack up our house, get the kids school and medical records, and find new doctors in Florida.  None of which is easy when you are in your third trimester.  We sold one of our cars, and some of our other bulky furniture.  We gave our parts car to a friend of ours.  My car is sitting in our friends back yard until we have the money to tow or ship it down to Florida, and all of our other belongings are in a storage unit, that I have no clue as to where anything is or how its packed because I couldn’t help pack it.  We loaded up our minivan and m husbands car with clothes, the kids school things, a few toys, and the dogs things.  My nephew took vacation time to drive the minivan down while my husband drove his own car.

We get to Florida and get the girls all set up in their new schools.  The transition was hard for my oldest daughter, her gpa dropped some.  She mad a few friends and seems well adjusted now.  My next daughter who is also now a teen adjusted well.  She is getting lazy with her schooling though.  My seven year old adjusted the best.

Our little surprise was due April 14th.  Due to m previous complications, I was scheduled for a c-section at 37 weeks.   Our baby had other plans.  She came at 36 weeks.  We got to see her for a quick minute before the nurses whisked her away to the NICU.  Our beautiful Melanie Grace spent ten days in the NICU.  When she was a day old, she ran into more complications.  Her lung collapsed, causing her to have to have a chest tube placed, and there was talks about sending her to Miami.  Thank god they didn’t have to.  She was able to stay where she was, and quickly recovered.  She was able to come home on Easter Sunday.

So here I am, not just a mom of three girls, but now four.  It loos like I will be Mom of a Teenage Girl for a long time.

 

Pay Attention Grandparents!

Do your parents or in-laws ignore your kids, their grandchildren?  It is frustrating as a mother to watch my girls constantly get disappointed when it comes to my father-in-law.

We are not talking about the occasional, “oh, I didn’t hear you.”  We are talking about not even acknowledging them.  He was forced by my sister-in-law to come to the hospital the day that the twins were born, and that was only because one of them was not going to make it.  After that, he never came back to the hospital, never visited when we brought her home.  We still lived in the same state as him at the time.

When Amberly was 3 years old, we got her a Nabi Tablet for her birthday.  She was so excited and couldn’t wait until we went to CT to visit him for Christmas so she could show him and tell him all about her new toy.  He completely ignored her, didn’t even acknowledge her, and every time she would start talking to him, he would either start talking to someone else or get up and walk away.

The next year, my sister-in-law had her son over the summer.  My father-in-law visited with his new grandchild every day. Even purchased most of the baby’s necessities before he was born.  When we went to visit for Christmas, we figured that he would at least be happy to see our girls.  Boy was I wrong.  Once again, Amberly was completely ignored.  My oldest daughter, who was at the age of puberty at the time, had a purse with her.  All of our purses and coats were placed in my father-in-law’s bedroom.  Well his new wife hollered at my oldest daughter for going in there to get her purse.  My oldest daughter was also hollered at for gently touching her new cousin’s hand.  After dinner was over, my husband went outside with his father to have the after dinner smoke.  I immediately put the girls coats, hats, gloves on and packed up Amberly’s toys she had been playing with.  As soon as my husband walked back in the house, I said we are leaving right now, and the girls and I walked out to the car while my husband said his goodbyes to his family.  I was so furious!

This year I don’t think we are going there.  Amberly graduated Kindergarten this past spring.  I had messaged my father-in-law in facebook messenger, “Dad, we wanted to let you know that Amberly’s Kindergarten graduation is on Thursday, June 11 at 1:30.  She would love for you to come.”  I got no response, so a few days later my husband messaged him via text message.  He told my husband he had to work.  (Now, when you send an invite like that to someone who is married, it is an invite to their spouse as well, why send 2 invites to a couple, right?  Apparently wrong.)  We found out later, by another family member that he did NOT have to work, he didn’t come because his new wife did not get a separate invite.  Amberly was once again left disappointed.

All over his facebook page are photos like this one…

grandson

Nothing at all about granddaughters.

It is really sad that he behaves in this manner.  He is missing out on getting to know 3 incredible, wonderful granddaughters.

Concert; Teen Knows Best

My first concert was Oz Fest.  I was definitely not mentally prepared for I saw at that concert.

My teen is going to her first, we’ll say grown up concert.”  She’s been to concerts like Selena Gomez, but that’s a kiddie, preteen concert, and absolutely nothing like the Wiz Khalifa / Fall Out Boy concert that she will be attending today.

I tried to prepare her for what she will see, and of course because she is a teen everything I say goes in one ear and right out the other, because she knows all about how concerts really are.  I tried telling her that she will see people doing and selling drugs at this concert.  She says no mom this is not that kind of concert.  I tried telling her that people will probably sneak in weapons either knives or guns or both, and once again I was told no mom it’s not that kind of concert.  I tried informing her that there will be the occasional person walking around half naked with body paint on, and she will most likely see people making out or having sex on the field, but once again teen knows best.

It will be interesting to see what she has to say after the concert.

What was your first concert experience?  Did you let your teen attend any concerts yet, if so what was his/her experience?

Working Parents & Sick Kids

I am not a stay at home mom.  I work full time and my husband works two full time jobs, just to get us through the holiday season.  We live 300 miles away from most of our family.  So what do working parents do when their children get sick, daycare is not an option when kids are sick, and there is no family close by to help?

My five year old is sick.  We are hoping it is just a cold and not that enterovirus that is going around.  School rules are that you have to be fever free for 24 hours to return to school.  My poor, sweet girl has had a fever for four days now.  She has been out of school for three days, and will probably not be able to return until next Monday.

I work in healthcare, and trying to get a day off on such short notice without calling off and getting in trouble is slim to no chance.  Healthcare workers are not allowed to be sick.  We get written up and in some cases terminated for being sick.

My husband works for a hotel chain.  They are also not allowed to be sick or  have sick kids.  Hotel workers also get written up or terminated for calling off sick or to take care of sick kids.  Needless to say, his boss was mad at him on Monday because he called off to take care of our daughter.

I was scheduled to be off on Tuesday and was going to have my oldest daughter care for her on Wednesday (today) but my little one started having more trouble breathing, and her fever was 103 all day.  I called off today.  I will probably get written up for it when I return to work on Friday.  I found someone to work for me on Thursday and asked if I can leave three hours early on Friday so my husband can go to his second job, he’s off from his first job.

Hopefully I will still have my job when I return to work.  If not, at least I will know that my daughter was well taken care of while she is sick.  Hopefully her fever will go down soon, and this won’t go into next week.

“I’m Sorry” Only Goes so Far

I wake up at 5:30 am during the week when I have to work.  I also wake up my kindergartner at that time so she can eat breakfast, get ready for school and so I can drop her off at a friends house who then gets her on the school bus, with their son who is the same age,for me.

Today, the kindergarten class when to a pumpkin patch for a class trip.  Parents were told to send a bagged lunch for the kids, as they would be having lunch at the pumpkin patch.  I prepared my daughters bagged lunch, and told her where she could find her lunch today (instead of being in her lunch box).   I proceeded with our normal routine and dropped her off at our friends house.

My friend was chaperoning my daughter and her son today for the trip.  When I got home from work, she had called me.  She said that the pumpkin patch was great and that the kids a good time.  There was only one problem.   My friend went up to my daughter’s teacher to ask for her lunch at lunch time and was told that my daughter’s teacher neglected to bring the kids lunches and did not allow the kids to bring their backpacks.  All her teacher said was I’m sorry.  No let me buy them all lunch at the snack bar or they can have some of my lunch.  Just “I’m sorry”.

My friend offered my daughter some of her sons food which was very nice of them.  My daughter, however, is the ultimate picky eater and only took a couple of bites.  We have great friends.

I am very mad at my daughter’s teacher.  Not only had my daughter have no lunch and didn’t eat since 5:30 am, but when they returned to the school, her teacher would not let them eat their lunches or have their snacks.  They arrived back to the school two hours before school let out for the day.  That was plenty of time for them to have their snacks or lunches.  Nope, my daughter had to wait from 5:30 am til 4:00 pm to have her lunch!

I called the superintendent’s office after I had gotten off the phone with my friend, at 3:15 and was informed that everyone had left for the long weekend.  I am expecting a call back from the superintendent on Tuesday afternoon.

I will not be letting this teacher get away with not allowing these kids to eat today.  It is not acceptable.  No child should have to go hungry in school, especially when the parents send in their kids lunch with them every day.  In this instance, “I’m Sorry” goes no where with me.