The Marching Band Life

My 17-year-old is in marching and.  She has played the clarinet since she was in 4th grade.  Marching band has been a part of our life for past 3 years now.

Marching band isn’t just another after school activity.  It ends up being like an extended family.  Not only do the band parents car pool, but the upper classmen who drive also help the under classmen with transportation to and from events.  Sara has had to find her own way to and from practices and events because something is always going on during my work day.

First starts out with the band meeting to discuss when band camp is during summer vacation.  How much band dues are for the year.  What fundraisers are going to be to help cover the costs of band dues and trips.

And then…this one time at band camp.  Yes, for those of you who don’t know, band camp is a real thing.  It’s more of a day camp of marching band rehearsals.  This is where the new band members learn how to march and everyone learns the upcoming football season field show.  It is really intense but a lot of fun for Sara.

Once school is back in session the after school rehersals and football games start.  We also add in the band competitions, parades and winter concert preporation.  There are more smaller band groups as well.  So band season in the south is not really a season.  It is an all year event.

Wish us luck this year! Not only is Sara the clarinet section leader, but she is also Band Captain.

Go Jags!


Junior Year was a Blur

My oldest teen just finished her junior year of high school.  It feels like she just started last week.  My straight A, smarty pants teenage daughter did not disappoint this year.  She was taking a mix between honors and IB classes.

I give her a lot of credit getting straight A’s and a 4.0 GPA.  On top of her studies, she also babysits her siblings and starts or makes dinner depending on what time I get out of work during the week.  With her siblings, it can be very stressful at times.

As if the end of the year studying for finals isn’t stressful enough.  Her chemistry teacher was arrested 2-3 weeks before school ended for having inappropriate relationships with 2 male students.  One of every parent’s worst fears.

Sara did really well this school year.  I am super proud of my teenage daughter.


As a parent, I expect my kids to do well in school.  My teen has always been a straight A student, so for her I expect nothing less than a B.  I don’t except anything less because I know that she can do it.  However, my tween is another story.

My tween has a learning disability.  We kept her back a year so that she wouldn’t be 1.5 yrs behind in school.  She has caught up quite nicely since keeping her back.  Now we expect nothing less than a C from her.

When we go her report card for the third term of this school year we were surprised.  Not in a good way either.  Her spelling grade is a 52.  Absolutely not acceptable.  We were furious!  I grounded her from all electronics and social life for the entire 4th term.  No computer, no tablet, no cell phone (except to call her dad and myself all other apps and numbers were blocked).

I was going to be nice and take a week off of her punishment if she found out what she had gotten on the last 2 spelling tests if the grades were really, really good.  That got thrown right out the window when she lied to us about a math packet she had to do.  She told me the other night that she had 1.5 pages left to do in a 14 page packet that she was given for homework.  It was the night of her band concert so I wrote a letter to her teacher asking to keep her in for recess to complete the packet.  I get a phone call from the teacher telling me that she had a week to complete it between homework and class time that was given.  She failed the packet after all that and had a lunch detention that day for antics about when the packet was given and completed.

She says she knows how important school is and getting good grades is.  I’m having a lot of trouble seeing that right now.  I would love to see her get her act together before she falls behind again.  She’s going to have a rude awakening when she gets into the middle school next school year.

“I’m Sorry” Only Goes so Far

I wake up at 5:30 am during the week when I have to work.  I also wake up my kindergartner at that time so she can eat breakfast, get ready for school and so I can drop her off at a friends house who then gets her on the school bus, with their son who is the same age,for me.

Today, the kindergarten class when to a pumpkin patch for a class trip.  Parents were told to send a bagged lunch for the kids, as they would be having lunch at the pumpkin patch.  I prepared my daughters bagged lunch, and told her where she could find her lunch today (instead of being in her lunch box).   I proceeded with our normal routine and dropped her off at our friends house.

My friend was chaperoning my daughter and her son today for the trip.  When I got home from work, she had called me.  She said that the pumpkin patch was great and that the kids a good time.  There was only one problem.   My friend went up to my daughter’s teacher to ask for her lunch at lunch time and was told that my daughter’s teacher neglected to bring the kids lunches and did not allow the kids to bring their backpacks.  All her teacher said was I’m sorry.  No let me buy them all lunch at the snack bar or they can have some of my lunch.  Just “I’m sorry”.

My friend offered my daughter some of her sons food which was very nice of them.  My daughter, however, is the ultimate picky eater and only took a couple of bites.  We have great friends.

I am very mad at my daughter’s teacher.  Not only had my daughter have no lunch and didn’t eat since 5:30 am, but when they returned to the school, her teacher would not let them eat their lunches or have their snacks.  They arrived back to the school two hours before school let out for the day.  That was plenty of time for them to have their snacks or lunches.  Nope, my daughter had to wait from 5:30 am til 4:00 pm to have her lunch!

I called the superintendent’s office after I had gotten off the phone with my friend, at 3:15 and was informed that everyone had left for the long weekend.  I am expecting a call back from the superintendent on Tuesday afternoon.

I will not be letting this teacher get away with not allowing these kids to eat today.  It is not acceptable.  No child should have to go hungry in school, especially when the parents send in their kids lunch with them every day.  In this instance, “I’m Sorry” goes no where with me.